Let’s talk about the information that is already stored in the subconscious mind. Where and when did all that information come from? And how is all of that affecting us, our personality, and coming in the way of or supporting us in achieving our goals? The critical faculty of the mind develops by the age of 10. Whatever information we receive before that from an authority figure, like our parents or our teachers, or from our peers or friends or siblings who we trust a lot, gets stored as a foundation in the subconscious mind. As an example, there was a woman who had this terrible fear of speaking in a crowd. She was a successful businesswoman, very smart and very knowledgeable. She would do absolutely fine in close group meetings and conferences, but whenever she had to step out of the crowd, face the crowd and give a speech or conduct a seminar, she would start sweating, her knees would start shaking, her heart would start beating fast and her breathing became abnormal, almost like about to have a blackout. When she was taken in hypnosis a very strong negative memory came back from the subconscious mind that she had consciously forgotten all about for the purpose of embarrassing herself over it. When she was 6, her English teacher asked her to step out and write the spelling of cat on the board. And the situation was something like this. There she is, the little girl, you are all the classmates and I’m here… the teacher… we all have our eyes on her. Anyway, she went up to the board and wrote the letters K.A.T. First reaction came from the other children. Everyone started pointing at her and the board and started laughing. 6 year old… critical factor has not been developed… peers laughing… first failure memory stored… “People make fun of me”. The second reaction came from the teacher… “What have you written? How many times have I explained this to you? Don’t you get it? That’s such a stupid thing to do”… critical factor has not been developed… authority figure… teacher… saying such things… second failure memory stored… “I am stupid”. This was a perfect situation for her subconscious mind to accept whatever the teacher and other children said as real. Although she grew up to be successful in her line of work, but this memory stayed in her subconscious mind forever and became a foundation. So whenever she stood in front of people, in this situation, her subconscious mind acted upon that foundation and told her “but you are stupid! Everyone makes fun of you! You can’t do this”. But only after a couple of hypnotherapy sessions not only did she get over her fear, she started training people in her team to become better public speakers.
Another example, a 45 year old man, very intelligent, wonderful graphic designer, had only one goal in life – to start his own graphic designing firm. For more than 10 years he had been working for others. He tried everything to set up his own business, spent a lot of money. But no matter what he did, he just couldn’t reach his goal. He gave up and lost all of his money in the process. Even his wife left him. In his hypnotherapy session he said “I can never do anything right. I’m a failure. I could not even make my family proud of me. I’m such a loser. I deserve to be left alone”. During hypnosis he went back to the time when he was 4. He saw his mom and dad fighting, yelling at each other, throwing abuses in each other’s face as he watched from under the bed, feeling scared. He was just a kid. He heard his mother saying to his father “you can never do anything right. You’re a failure and that’s what our son is going to be because he has your genes. He is seeing that his dad is a loser and he’ll grow up to be just like him. You can’t even make your own family feel proud of you. I’m leaving and I’m taking our son so I can save him from being a loser just like you”. His mom divorced his dad shortly after. Then he went back to another memory when he was 7, living with his mom. He came back from school with his result card and he had failed in one subject. So his mom caught hold of his collar and said “failure… loser… just like your father. You can never do anything right. You deserve a punishment”. After this she locked him in his room and did not give him any dinner. He stayed there, alone and cried all night. A child as young as that… absence of critical factor… first negative conditioning… “I’m a failure and a loser and I can never do anything right”… second negative conditioning… “I deserve to be left alone”. And so, therefore whenever he wanted to do something on his own, his subconscious negative conditionings would come to surface and no matter what he did, he would fail at it. He started believing all that negative conditioning to be the truth about him. Any guesses what his father’s profession was? He was a cartoonist in a local newspaper. But only after 4 sessions, he got over those negative conditionings and, with the positive approach that he formed during his sessions he started working again on his goal. He did not give up this time. And in a matter of few months he reached his goal and established his own graphic designing company.
That is the power of Hypnotherapy. It empowers you to do whatever it is you want to do by loading your subconscious mind with positive ideas and clearing it from all the negative conditionings. And obviously, when there are so many positives, how can there even be any space for the negatives?
Now all these self-doubts – I’m not worthy, I’m not capable, ‘I’m useless, I’m stupid – no matter where they are coming from, block us from achieving our goals. And they can form in the subconscious mind at any time. Let’s say, you are with a friend who you really trust and love, he or she is your best friend. You share an idea with your friend about, say, making a movie and you’re genuinely very excited about it. And your friend says “are you mad? Stupid! Do you even know how to make a movie? This is such a stupid idea”. Although you may at that time snap at your friend and tell them you’re going to do it anyway no matter what they think and walk away. But what they said about you and the idea being stupid has now been stored in your subconscious mind. Why? Because when we are with people who we love and trust with all our emotions our critical factor is relaxed. Therefore, we all really need to be careful and responsible with what we say to and how we deal with others. In that case, if you are the friend and you really want your friend to act sensibly and maturely, you can say “that sounds like a great idea. But don’t you think it would be better to first get some knowledge on the subject? And also, do you think we have enough resources to make the film? Let’s get the resources first then we can start working on it”. So going back to self-doubts like not worthy, not capable, useless or stupid that block us from achieving our goals, with hypnotherapy all these blocks can be reversed. How? You know this now! By relaxing the critical factor, establishing communication between the conscious and the subconscious mind and feeding the subconscious mind with positive suggestions.
Now that we know what hypnosis and hypnotherapy is, let’s take a look at what it isn’t. Here are some myths and misconceptions around hypnosis.
It is a truth serum.
There is a false belief that you can’t lie in hypnosis. Oh yes you can! It is not an alternative to lie detector. Hypnosis cannot force anyone to tell the truth or to confess. You can lie straight through your teeth in hypnosis, but you won’t be doing yourself any good.
The hypnotist will control my mind.
No one can control your mind, unless you let them. In hypnosis, if you hear something that you don’t agree with or you don’t understand, your subconscious mind will automatically reject it. There is no way that you can lose your mind in hypnosis.
It comes from black magic.
Hypnosis is a natural state that has been studied scientifically. Hypnotherapists are not people with “supernatural powers”. Hypnotherapy is based on many years of clinical research. And mind you, it has the word “therapy” in it, not “magic”.
I can’t be hypnotized because my mind is too strong.
When you go to a hypnotherapist, it is your decision to use hypnosis for self-improvement. Therefore, your mind has already accepted the idea of hypnotherapy. And over the last 30 years many scientific methods have been developed to induce hypnosis in 100% of the population.
A post by:
Swasti S Sharma, CMS-CHt FIBH (USA)
Medical Support Clinical Hypnotherapist / Past Life Regression Therapist
Certified by International Board of Hypnotherapy
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